Any suggestions on dating now days :-)
To all you single brothers and sisters out there I need some good advice 
I was married to my wife Lisa for 17 yrs and we were together for 20 yrs.
Lisa passed away about 2 yrs ago and I think I am ready to date. I know things have changed with time since the last time I was out dating , I belong to 4 different Motorcycle clubs and have met a few good women. I have no problem talking to them, I am just not sure on how to confront them about the dating scene and was hoping for some good advice from all of you.
All the help would be appreciated 
Boy I am so clueless on this dating bit 
Thank you
Vic Young
Congrats Vic!
to a little boy last month. The baby is the first for both of them.
Now where are those pictures??? 
Not only did Vic do a great job of catching the girl, he became a dad
to a little boy last month. The baby is the first for both of them.
My dad was a widower at 57yrs old, that's how we ended up at MHS. He never had any problems dating. He dated many different ladies, all shapes, nationalities, madien ladies, & ladies with kids. They were from everywhere. Ladies acquainted with him from mutual friends and social outtings, a lady doctor who he frequently helped out (contractor stuff). I really think my dad talked to the ladies and just asked them out. He enjoyed himself when he went out and as long as they were sweet and had a nice time and then he had a nice time.
I will say he was a gentleman. Remember, if you are dating ladies in the clubs you are in, you will see them after any romance ends. That can be sticky. Also, kids need to see men acting respectfully so don't bring them home unless your kids can do that too.
So many lovely lonely ladies are too shy to ask a man out. So you sir, go out and have your pick.
I would be just as clueless. The only real date I ever had was with my hubby and we been married going on 19 years with 5 kids. I wouldn't know what to do either.
I am sorry to hear about your wife.
How many second dates do YOU get?
She already launched a torque wrench at me when I was helping her out ,,, it slipped out of her hand and hit me in my leg and I still helped her out.
I might be in trouble about the bike I took it off of her and cleaned it up for her and she was happy about that.It rides good for a small bike (sportster).
Your right about separate bikes I am learning her way of sign language, boy is that interesting.
My first date went well and I survived, she seems to be on the wild side , but I guess I will find out more here in the next few weeks because I am successful enough for another date.
Thanks for the advice
Vic
but they bear repeating here:
Remember to pay as much attention to your partner as you do your accessories catalog.
A good rider has balance, judgment, and good timing. So does a good lover.
It takes more love to share the saddle than it does to share the bed.
NEVER argue with a woman holding a torque wrench.
Sometimes the best communication happens when you're on separate bikes.
If she changes her oil more than she changes her mind--follow her.
You'll know she loves you if she offers to let you ride her bike. Don't do it and she might even respect you.
:-]
You already took the hardest step. It'll be easier here on out.
I can see your point about the second best ,but choosing the best will be hard.
I actually have a date Saturday for the HOG club (Harleys Owners Group) dinner and dancing.
This one the first time I met her I liked her attitude and the way she acted around me,she carried herself well,we already met for dinner and coffee so far so good.
I know , we had that discussion yaers ago
Vic
I tell you what I found out there are alot of aggressive women out thier, and it kind of scared me at first.
I have joined 4 different motorcycle clubs, because I like riding my bike and hope to find someone that likes to do the same thing.
I agree about starting slow, I do not think I will be dissappointed about any of my dates. I will just be myself and take things slowly.
Thanks for the advice unc.
Vic
I agree with Linda. Be choosy. Don't settle for second best.
If you find yourself attracted to a certain woman, don't hesitate to ask her out. Even if it's to a group function. Don't be shy! Your an awesome guy, Vic. Any woman with a lick of sense will know that.
If I were single, I'd snap you up. But unfortunately for you....:
to just ask the person you like to go out. It really is that simple. I have been divorced for 13 years and I have never had so much fun in the dating seen. I use to be picky, but found the ones I thought were great catches were psychos. You never know someone until you get to "REALLY" know them. First impressions and preconceived notions can be wrong as much as right.
Start slow and don't be disappointed about some of your dates. Dating is just like eating cantaloupe. They all look good on the outside, but you never know till you cut them in half and taste the fruit.
unc
PS... being a biker myself, we do run into many women and some are really nice. Try the ones you know enjoy the Bikers life. You already have something in common.
Linda,
I agree with you about being picky,I also agree with you about being myself and not trying to impress anyone.
I will give this a try and see what happens.
I appreciate all the help I can get.
Thank you
Vic
but if you think you are ready, then I say, first thing is to be picky, don't waste your time on women that don't measure up to what you want in a partner. Once you think someone has these qualities, just ask her to hang out doing whatever you like to do, and talk alot to get to know her. Be yourself, don't try too hard to impress her, let her see the real you, and let the rest come naturally.
Write that book and help out some other lonely hearts! Well, with a little one, you probably don't have the time to write that book.